What is Intuitive Coaching (and Why it Works)
Intuitive Coaching is Energy work through language
Introduction
“The art of medicine consists in amusing the patient while nature cures the disease.” Voltaire
The same is true of coaching
The techniques are entertainment for the mind. What actually does the work is two fields meeting. One person holding stability while another finds their way back.
My greatest gift during a call is my own coherence. The steadiness I’ve built in my own system through years of practice.
Transformation happens when someone finally feels safe enough to stop performing and start feeling. When they drop below the story and meet what’s actually true.
We Are Tuning Forks
Like tuning forks, we entrain to the fields around us. Sit with a calm person while agitated and your nervous system begins to settle. Sit with chaos and you’ll feel it in your chest.
Intuitive coaching works at the level of attunement. I’m not teaching, I’m helping your system remember a more coherent pitch.
The work is energetic. I listen to what’s present in the field between us, what wants to move, what’s stuck, what’s ready to shift.
What Actually Happens in a Session
11 am. First call of the day. Two rings, then “Hello?”
“Hi John, this is Gabriel… how are you doing today?”
Almost always the same: “I’m doing okay.”
But I know better.
So I give it a minute. A few gentle questions. Space for a pause. A breath. I wait for the ripple beneath the surface. Then it comes:
“Actually… I’m not okay.”
People reach out when something starts to move, a health scare, a heartbreak, money trouble, work pressure, or that quiet ache that whispers, “I don’t know who I am anymore.”
This is where we begin. With what’s actually present.
Three Things I Track
The underlying beliefs creating their reality. “Life is hard.” “My ex really screwed me.” “I can’t trust people.” These are the operating system running in the background. Most people don’t notice them. They just live inside the reality these beliefs create.
The emotional content. When there’s emotion, voice cracks, eyes well up, breath shifts, there are layers underneath. When there’s no emotion, they’re in their head. Story land. A loop they’ve told a hundred times.
What wants to move. Stuck emotion lives in the body. Unprocessed grief. Suppressed anger. Fear that never got felt. I’m listening for what’s been held and what’s ready to release.
What This Looks Like
She says: “My ex really screwed me over. He was emotionally unavailable, never showed up, always prioritized work.” But her voice is flat. No charge.
I ask: “Where do you feel that in your body right now?”
Pause.
Her hand moves to her throat. “It’s... tight. Like I can’t speak.”
Now we’re in the body. The real work begins.
Ten minutes later, we’re talking about being seven years old. Watching her father leave for work every morning. Learning that love means being left behind.
That’s the belief creating her reality.
The Gas Station Analogy
At a gas station, the essential thing is invisible. No one watches the fuel enter the tank. Still, without it, nothing moves.
In intuitive coaching, the same thing happens. The work is energetic, relational, attentional. Nothing dramatic on the surface. Yet the system leaves with more capacity, more direction, more available energy.
Intuitive coaching addresses the energetic, emotional, mental, and spiritual bodies. It tunes the driver. It supports the physical body indirectly by reducing nervous system load. It works at the layer of coherence, attunement, resonance.
Five Bodies, Four Phases
Coherence lives in five layers: physical, energetic, emotional, mental, spiritual. The work moves through all of them.
Change unfolds in four phases: paradigm shift, catharsis, corrective experience, integration. Weekly calls over months allow each phase the time it needs.
[Link: Read more about the five bodies framework]
[Link: Read more about the four phases of change]
Same Medicine, Different Roads
I learned intuitive coaching by serving medicine ceremonies. Watching the same healing intelligence move through different forms taught me something essential
The method changes, the medicine doesn’t.
Medicine work is Vipassana. Ten days in silence. High voltage. Complete surrender. You see the mountain.
Intuitive coaching is daily meditation. Weekly sits. Low voltage. Steady practice. You learn to walk it.
Writing is awareness between breaths. Micro-current. The field you return to when life pulls you sideways.
Same intelligence. Same presence. Three routes of administration.
The work happens when readiness and resonance meet. Medicine can crack you open in one night or leave you untouched. Coaching can rewire a lifetime in six months or spin in circles. Writing can land as revelation or scroll past unread.
Medicine interrupts. Coaching integrates. Writing reminds.
You don’t need all three. They amplify each other when you do.
Where To Start
Before the first call, I send a 100-statement assessment that maps coherence across all five bodies. It’s a snapshot of where stability lives and where it’s missing. The work begins where the coherence breaks down.
[Link: Take the Five Bodies Assessment]
Why It Works
The external method is entertainment while nature does its work.
What creates change is two consciousness fields meeting. One holding coherence while the other remembers how.
What transforms you is finally feeling safe enough to stop bracing. To let what’s been held move. To trust you won’t fall apart if you let go.
My job is to hold steady while you find your way back to yourself.
The work happens in the field between us.
Everything else is structure.
We meet weekly. The work unfolds organically over months. Some weeks we talk. Some weeks we breathe, shake, sit in silence. Some weeks the breakthrough happens between calls and we witness what shifted.
I walk the terrain with you until the ground feels steady.
The Invitation
If you’ve felt the pull toward one of the five thresholds, health breaking down, love bringing loss, money feeling unstable, work losing meaning, or the quiet existential ache, this is what walking through it looks like.
[Link: The Five Reasons People Seek Guidance]
Meeting what’s true. Feeling what’s been held. Letting the body remember how to be steady again.
Intuitive coaching is like medicine work without the training wheels.
Whenever you’re ready, I’m here.
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Because the stories we tell are the reality we live.
Genius! What a deep and thoughtful way of approaching the human condition in all its complexity. In some ways I do similar things as a hospital chaplain - open space for people to tell me how they are actually feeling, not what they think the doctor wants them to say. And then gently invite them to feel their way into the truth of their situation - physically, spiritually, energetically, emotionally. It's best if I can see them more than once, but sometimes just the reality of their hospitalization primes folks to open up in ways that take them by surprise.
I love the way you have laid out the levels of healing, the different approaches, and the need for integration. I'm sure you are helping people in truly meaningful ways.